There are literally hundreds of pages of stuff written about gambling as a human experience. No kidding, it is unbelievable how much stuff is out there for all to see, but when you get right down to it, one of the truly cool things about gambling, especially forms of gambling where you are up against a machine and not your fellow players, is the sense of brotherhood/sisterhood with your fellow players.
You don’t really see that sort of thing happen at the card tables. Perhaps the blackjack table, because it’s you against the house and not the other players, but none of the other games really.
When you get to the slots machines, video poker machines (aka the pokies) and feel the rush of energy that hangs over the aisles of machines. It is a feeling unlike any other in the world. When you are at an online casino it’s not quite the same unless you’ve developed friends there (or in the real world who you share the experience with) and opened a chat window (if the online casino has that feature) and then can experience the feeling remotely. But even online there is still that being part of something. Like soldiers bond against a common foe or a sports team up against a mortal enemy.
As mentioned before, blackjack players may experience that bonding if they are of the right disposition (meaning the socializing type) and the right conditions exist. Those conditions are usually the right kind of dealer who by the strength of their personality can bring the players together, which can happen by either positive or negative re-enforcement. Positively it can happen by a friendly dealer who empathizes with the players or by an antagonistic dealer, who by sheer annoying traits rallies the players indirectly to bond against them. It is incredible to see this unfold. Racial differences, sexual differences or religious differences disappear under the gaze of a common enemy: the house dealer.
So, in the online world this occurs differently, but it does happen. Have any of you ever had your friends over for an online casino party? They are the coolest thing. You develop a network of friends who enjoy the same thing that you do: playing the pokies online. And then you orchestrate an evening where they all get together at one of the member’s homes and have an evening of it. This can work on any game really, but you have to be careful if the game is a competitive one and you are all playing against each other like with poker in the same poker room. It can still be okay, but that depends on the players and how mature they are about losing to each other. Some can handle that, some can’t. You be the judge.
But with a game like slots machines or pokie machines it can work like a dream. You pick a night to hook up. If you are going to be drinking then choosing a weekend night is probably better for the sake of NOT driving home tipsy. Everyone makes sure they bring a sleeping bag and their laptops. Cooking a dinner or ordering out can be the perfect start for the evening coupled with some socializing. Then you break out the lapops and everyone logs on to their accounts and has at her. It is all of you against the online casino and it’s great! You can bounce frustrations and triumphs off of each other. Really make it a social event to remember and plan for again. And you get to do it all from the comfort and safety of your home (or your friend’s home who is the host this week).
Developing a good social network of friends to experience your online casino pleasure is solid thing from a psychological perspective. Being at home alone while gambling can mean that you are more likely to get yourself into a depression if you start losing in a big way. but with a network of friends who also gamble means that if things go wrong you have support right there. Even if you are gambling alone that particular night, chances are that you’d be able to call one of them and get yourself pulled up out of the funk you got yourself into. And by someone who knows, not a friend with no gambling experience.
These are all positive factors that help make your online gambling experience the best that it can be. And really that is what we all want. Sure winning is the ultimate goal and no sane gambler will argue that point, but having fun is also part of it. Coming away from the evening’s playing with a smile on your face and being able to joke with your friends is a close second place. Think about any time you have gone out to a brick & mortar casino alone. Now think about the times you’ve gone out with friends to the same casino? Which of the two experiences was the better one? Most of you will say the one enjoyed in the company of friends.
Now the social aspect of gambling with friends is something that the female gamblers probably know all about. There are statistics to support this that women tend to hit casinos (be they brick & mortar casinos or online casinos) as a form of social bonding. Their primary focus is doing it together with winning as a close second place, but men are a different story.
Men tend to be less social as they get older and have to be pushed a bit to get into the groove of socialized gambling, but the benefits are huge. Men typically gamble for winning money and for the thrill of the wager, which is fine if they don’t hit a stretch of poor luck. This is where they may need a kick in the pants by any female casino friends to join the group and become part of something. It doesn’t take much to get them involved, but they usually have to be made welcome.
The bottom line is that we are social creatures and experiencing something with friends is always better for us than alone.